How it started

Taken on the first week after I moved to Amsterdam

I first heard about Taoist Erotic Massage through an ad on Gaydar when I was living in Amsterdam, 17 years ago. I was browsing through the website, nothing in mind, but that ad caught my attention. I messaged the guy, but I didn’t want to book an appointment, I asked him if he could teach me (a paid private class). The idea was to spice things up with my boyfriend at the time. Little did I know that decision was going to change the course of my life.

Luckily, he said yes, and coincidentally, another guy had just asked him for the same, so he decided to offer it to both of us. I was excited; it was my first time entering this field. I had never received an erotic massage before, and here I was, going to receive and learn. 

The setting was in his living room, the four of us naked: me, the other student, him, and his husband. He lectured us about the philosophy behind the Taoist Erotic Massage and showed us the strokes on his husband, while the other student and I kept flirting with each other. 

Suffice it to say, it was mind-blowing. I had an amazing time giving and receiving it; the chemistry between everyone was intense, and I practiced a lot with my boyfriend afterward. It was never intended to become my work; my idea was to learn a different skill, but fate had other plans. 

And this is the first and only time in my life I have texted a stranger out of the blue asking them to teach me anything. Little did I know how important it was for me to have put myself forward that way.